All weaned, nice and slowly

On March 23 Lily feel asleep for her nap without nursing.  She didn’t ask for it and I didn’t offer.  That was the first time in 3 years, 3 months and a day that Lil hadn’t nursed to sleep, aside from the very occasional nap in the car

Most days nursing didn’t bother me, I didn’t think much about it. Lily’s nursing was a constant in our lives, it was a major help most of the time, but there were the occasional days when I wanted nothing more than to never let Lily anywhere near my chest quadrant. Those days were a rarity and that’s great because I was determined to let Lil self-wean at her pace, no matter how slow that was, to be reviewed again at a later date if necessary.  I did have a small hand in the day time and middle of the night time weanings, but only in the slightest ways.  With the daytime nursing, she was still nursing on demand (but almost excursively at home only for a long time now, but Lil’s choice) until she was about 2 1/2, then one day I started just not offering anymore and at first nothing changed and then slowly she started going longer and longer at a stretch.  And on the days when she was just nursing too much or too long, I’d put a timer on so she knew how long it could last.

With the middle of the night nursing I just one day decided I needed more sleep. I slept topless and when Lil woke up in the middle of the night and crawled into our bed she would just snuggle up to me and nurse back to sleep.  This arrangement worked most nights and was great because a lot of nights I slept right through it.  But she had always used me as a human pacifier and night time was the worst.  It got to the point where some nights she would just nurse for hours and I would doze, but not sleep really well.  I couldn’t break the suction without waking her a lot of the times. Just a reminder, Lil has never, ever, ever been a good sleeper.  Anyway, one day a couple of months ago I had just had enough and I needed more sleep so I put a shirt on.  When Lil crawled in to bed the first night, she tugged at my shirt and asked about it. I told her that I’d let her nurse for a few minutes and then she was going to let go and go to sleep. I did that twice. It worked. I was ecstatic. I let her nurse a couple of time in the middle of the night because of a bad dream or something, but that was very rare.

Since I hadn’t been doing anything to encourage or discourage Lil’s going to sleep nursing I was shocked when she just stopped one day. I know I’ve read that over and over again on blogs and in articles about extended breastfeeding “Timmy just stopped one day, like I always knew he would”, but I had started to doubt that would be me and Lil, I was convinced for a while that she was going to nurse forever.  When we lay down on her bed to go to sleep I’d kiss her goodnight and then she’d either ask to nurse or just start pulling up my shirt. I never told her no, but every once in a while I’d give her the ‘none of her cousins (her age and younger) still nurse, and it’s fine with me if she wanted to keep nursing, but I’d also be ok when she decided that she was done, after all, you’re getting so big’ speech. While she nursed I’d snuggle her and smell her hair and pat her back and read my book on my phone. It was relaxing for both of us, most of the time.  So color me shocked when we go by the routine on 3/22 and then on 3/23 she never brings it up. I probably held my breath the whole time it took her to fall asleep. (It usually takes Lily about 30 minutes to fall asleep, how that does compare with your kids?) I went into Waldo’s office and told him “you are never going believe this, She feel asleep without nursing.”  The same thing happened when we went to sleep that night.   The next day was my 36th birthday, I feel like this was a great birthday present.  She hasn’t even asked to nurse in the last month. Success.

And as every parent knows with every success comes some kind of new challenge.  In the month since she weaned she has also given up her nap (I’m totally bummed about this for the work week, but excited for the weekends, now we have more flexibility) and we have had to figure out how to help her to fall asleep without boobs.  The last has been the hardest, but honestly not a totally brutal as I was afraid it might be.  It is once again taking her about 30 minutes to fall asleep at night, I can live with that.

Love is about the little things

All day today my back has been bothering me. Nothing major, but occasionally I’ll bend wrong and my back with yell a little. This evening we were sitting around and Lily was playing with the tablet and totally engrossed in it. I moaned pretty much under my breath “Oh my back hurts” and within a heartbeat Lily appeared in front of me with a couch pillow and said “here mama, this will help your back”.

This kid is the epitome of love being about the little things.

Park kiddo

I have heard on a number of occasions that she missed me sooooo much with a vice grip hug after being in the other room for a few moments.

Crushing egg shells

Lil is a kitty more often than not these days and if I’m not happy about something or I get hurt she will come and purr at me to make me feel better. This is one of my favorites.

This girl keeps me on my toes and knocks me off my feet daily. This is what life is meant to be.

Park kiddo

Happiness and love!

The pictures have nothing to do with the post at all. I just liked them and didn’t have any other use for them.

Discovery Center Fun

A few weeks ago we wanted to do something fun with Lil, and something that was different than the zoo.  So I looked up the Discovery Center of Idaho and figured out that there were probably some things that Lil would enjoy.  We packed up Lil and headed to Boise.

I was a little worried that Lil wouldn’t have fun, but figured that the Discovery Center is in the Zoo parking lot so we could always make a stop there if necessary.  I was totally worried for nothing.

Discovery Center 2/12

Everything at the Discovery Center could be touched and played with.  Lily loved it.

Discovery Center 2/12

Of course a lot of the exhibits were way over my her head, but she still had fun touching them or turning their dials or whatever.

Discovery Center 2/12

Discovery Center 2/12

Lil loves looking at herself in the mirror, so this infinite mirror thing was the best thing she’s ever seen.

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I was wrong, the little grocery store was the BEST. THING. EVER. EVER. EVER.

Discovery Center 2/12

She put little fruits and veggies in her cart and had a blast.

Discovery Center 2/12

Discovery Center 2/12

Then she got to check out. Oh, the excitement of it all.

She goes grocery shopping with us every weekend and sees how the whole thing works and the fact that she got to do it herself was so much fun.

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Every time she scanned a item she went “boop boop”. I have a video of it somewhere, I need to find that.

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We were on our way out the door when we saw this bubble tank and had to stop by and see what it was all about.

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This was my favorite thing at the Center. Lil and I had so much fun blowing huge bubbles, while Waldo took pictures.

Discovery Center 2/12

Discovery Center 2/12

Discovery Center 2/12

You know it’s a good sign when Lily asked as we were walking out the door to come back soon. And the next day she kept asking to go back to the place with the store.  We will definitely be going back to the Discovery Center. It was a blast.

Sickly sickos

Our house is full of sick people right now. My Father-in-law was the first to fall to the Doom and we are pretty sure he’s had two different things already. For about two weeks he coughed and I think had a runny nose, then all the sudden his illness turned and became so much worse. About three or four days after FIL’s nasties turned even nastier Lily and I started showing symptoms. For the last week and a half Lily and I have had terrible coughs (that keep me up most of the nights), fevers, runny noses, chills (me), headache (me again) and overall feeling like crap. Luckily Waldo and his Mom stayed healthy and took care of us.

The past week Lily and I have spent most of the day snuggling on the couch watching the same episodes of Clifford over and over. I would toss a Sesame Street in every once in a while and usually she wouldn’t notice, thankfully.  I still had to work, but I couldn’t make my normal work phone calls because on Thursday and Friday I had pretty much no voice and even today when I talk I end up coughing in the middle of most of my sentences.

My FIL is just about 2 weeks from when the newest flu or whatever hit him and he’s getting close to being over it. I don’t have a fever anymore, but I’m still coughing like crazy and have a super sore throat. Lil still has a very low grade fever, runny nose and coughing. I think we are going for the time record here and I do not approve.

A few days ago both Waldo and his Mom started showing symptoms, luckily we know how bad it can get so they started taking things to shorten the illness’ life and what not. So far they both seem to be doing better the the rest of us did.

Snow Day

We haven’t had much snow here this winter and I’m surprised to say that I’m a bit sad, but I’m sad for Lil so it’s not so surprising. She had so much fun playing in the snow in Montana and she keeps asking me when we’re going to get to do it again that I just feel bad that we haven’t had a day or two more then we have had. So the last time she asked I told her that we’d drive up to the mountains and find her some snow. Waldo told her the same thing later that day or the next day so we figured we’d better really do this.

Waldo’s brother gave us an idea of a good place to go that was about 45 minutes away. We got as ready as we were going to get and we were off. The drive was closer to 90 minutes, but we got to Idaho City and just past the tiny town they have a whole hill and play area for sledding. I guess the people of Idaho City take their sledding pretty seriously, all 450 of them. There were port-a-potties and dogs, lots of dogs. A few people had set up camp fires and had chairs set up around them. We thought that was pretty weird, but I guess they probably thought we were the weird ones. In our canvas shoes and jeans, Waldo and I anyway. Lily had jeans and rain boots on. We figured out really quickly that we are city people, small cities, but cities non the less. We are not made for hanging out in the snow.

After finding a parking place and getting Lil’s jacket and all of our gloves on we surveyed the sledding area and decided on a area out past the majority of people because there was a very gradual hill there and we thought Lil would have more fun there. There was a reason that all of the seasoned sledders weren’t playing over there and we figured it out quickly. On our way to our chosen spot we wondered off of the trampled path for a bit and ended up in snow up to our knees. Once we worked our way the edge of the wonder-hill’s area it became so hard to walk, because just about every step your feet would break though the snow and you’d end up to your ankles if we were lucky, our knees if we were and then have to try to take another step. Even thought I know that snow had many different characteristics on any given day I always assume that it’s light and fluffy. Not this snow, it was too frozen, hard, it had sharp edges and wouldn’t stick together for anything. Lil really wanted to make a snow cat, but this snow would have none of that. When we finally got to wonder-hill Waldo loaded Lil on the sled and took her up the little incline and let her go.

Snow day 1/29/12

She loved it.

Snow day 1/29/12

They went up and down a dozen or so times and I took pictures.

Snow day 1/29/12

Snow day 1/29/12

Snow day 1/29/12

After a bit Waldo was tired of pulling his legs our of the snow and Lil was tried of being cold so we started the trek back to the car.

Snow day 1/29/12

Snow day 1/29/12

At this point Waldo realizes his jacket is still hanging out on a tree and I’m closer (but not by much) so I turn around and go back for it. This was so miserable. Every time my foot would break thought the snow I felt little razors on my leg and my shoe was full of ice, it just wasn’t fun. After I got back to him and gave him his jacket I took a look at my leg and it was bleeding a little bit from the sharp edges of the snow. Let me repeat myself, the sharp edges of the SNOW. I would have taken a picture, but I didn’t shave so I wouldn’t have shown it to anyone anyway.

Snow day 1/29/12

After trudging past the majority of sledders I offered Lil a little bit of free play in the snow before we left. She didn’t want to do that, but while she was thinking about it Waldo and I decided to give sledding another try at a spot where the snow looked shallower. It was a lie, it was just as deep, but we could get there from the parking lot a lot easier. So we let Lil have some more sledding time.

Snow day 1/29/12

Snow day 1/29/12

She didn’t even really mind falling off the sled.  She just got back on that horse sled and told Daddy to “do it again, but this time don’t fall me off.”

Snow day 1/29/12

Snow day 1/29/12

This was easily the best part of the day and made the whole thing worth our while. Lily had so much fun sledding and can’t wait to do it again.

Snow day 1/29/12

Snow day 1/29/12

Just to prove what city folk we truly are, none of us had extra socks when we got back to the car. The diaper bag, thankfully had extra pants and underwear for Lil, but somehow even that held no socks. We had to drive to the tiny local grocery store (if you can really call it that) and buy socks. Of course they had no kiddo socks so I had to buy her women’s socks and we called them tights. She didn’t fall for it and hated them, but they warmed her feet so she left them on. When we got home she told me to take them back to the store and when I told her we couldn’t and I would just use them she told me to take a picture of them. So I did.

Snow day 1/29/12

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